Talking about what a person clearly needs is not a bad thing, but sometimes, the expression may be unsuccessful, or it may be between people who do not understand it, or want to misunderstand it deliberately, or they may turn his feelings into an object of ridicule, which may lead many to silence Therefore words always need the awareness of the speaker and the sincerity of the listener..

Contact, and here a preconceived idea and perceptions related to sexuality in all its forms may come to mind, but I am talking about the importance of touching in the life of every human being, and its very important impact on his psychological well-being and the proper development of his personality,Many experiments have been done on many children and it has been found that a child who is not exposed to constant contact from his parents, is not given care and is not present in an emotionally stable environment, is more exposed to psychological, social and health problems during the growth period and in the post-adulthood, until he becomes An adult, and this may lead him to depression, violence, and various forms of behavioral disorders, compared to children who were the focus of attention of their parents and their family, and who were exposed to touching, kissing and hugging from their family, so touching is the first evidence of communication, attention and love that every child needs to make sure of the love of his family mainly, Before his ideas and beliefs begin to gradually mature, and that starts from his birth, through breastfeeding and his mother's relationship with him, which acquires a sacred character and respect for everyone, but some problems related to the mother, such as postpartum depression, in addition to personal problems with the child's father, may be An obstacle to this communication, without losing sight of the need for contact and communication between the father and his children as well, and therefore there must be some education and awareness of the great importance of this part of the relationship in the child's life, and also for the parents, Because it gives them a feeling of happiness, self-satisfaction and psychological stability in general among ordinary people, with attention to the presence of many parents or spouses who need help and rehabilitation to enable them to perform their role properly ..

Contact is a great necessity and an urgent need, and this need for contact may prompt many of those who missed it to search for it preternaturally,And engaging in very bad relationships in search of interest and love, and they may practice compulsive behaviors such as theft, drug and alcohol addiction, gambling addiction, shopping addiction, and even sex addiction, and searching for it in various ways, The victim, who is in dire need of serious and urgent help from a specialist in psychiatry, to protect him from engaging in intense sexual activities and relationships in search of satisfying the need for passion, love and attention, even they were exposed to violence, exploitation and humiliation..

Love and sex are often confused by these victims, and we may not blame them because many educated people and even highly educated people cannot perceive the subtlety of the simple difference that separates love and sex, as they meet and harmonize, and may lead away On the common theories, one to the other, and there may be feelings of love that are far from sex, and also there are purely sexual feelings without affection, but there is no doubt that the upbringing of any child is what determines many of his personality characteristics, composition and options in the future, and it may be a cause In his happiness or unhappiness,Especially if he does not have sufficient awareness or the financial capabilities to go to a psychiatrist, and the willingness to accept a change in his behavior and thoughts, and make an effort to correct the course of his life, or if he does not meet a person who contains and understands him and can accommodate his emotional and psychological needs, which makes this, if we think deeply, beyond just a lack of warm feelings, to actually be more like a (permanent disability) similar to losing one of his organs or his senses and affecting him for the rest of his life, and may sometimes lead him to suicide..

met a respectable woman, who closed herself after her husband’s death, and after a period of careful interaction between us for personal reasons, she told me .. The most important thing a woman is looking for in this difficult life is someone she can trust, confidence is the highest degree of respect Which leads a lot to love, I loved my husband so much, I was lucky because I was emotionally fragile because I grew up in a violent environment, and I was trying to overcome my psychological pain by engaging in learning and achieving professional successes, but I only felt stable with my husband, because he was the right person. He was educated, sensitive, open-minded, respectful of women, had a high sense of humanity, supported me in my decisions, and made me stronger in the face of the ongoing challenges in our societies. My heart died when my husband died, I speak now frankly, he was like a father, a friend and a lover, I missed his touches, before him I was afraid someone would touch me, because I was subjected to continuous violence for years from my father, and he was the one who was able to restore everything that happened inside me, today I am a widow An orphan, and I feel that these touches were the most important treasure in my life that will never return again, they are not touches, they were love, tenderness, containment, treatment, these touches were my life, and they were what I missed before him, and what I miss now without him,Many cannot separate the touch of sympathy, appreciation and need from the touch of desire. I am completely lonely and naked without him, but I was undoubtedly lucky to marry him for more than thirty-five years..

  Talking about what we need is not flawed, and seeking help from a professional or reliable person is a necessity, but the problem lies when we act unconsciously with the child, and our belief that he does not understand everything, while these concepts continue with him until the end of his life, help your children and contain them and be their emotional Safe shelter, touches equate to an entire life..