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No one can resist nature..
A child looks to his parents from his early childhood years as his role model, his reference, a source of psychological and emotional safety and a shelter from everything that frightens him and he cannot deal with or understand, as he will always ask one or both of his parents about any question on his mind.. and in the absence of that,In the absence of this, there is an indication of a defect in the relationship of the child with his parents..
There is no doubt that each of us constantly sees the innocent attempts of children to imitate the behavior of adults and this is a natural and good thing within certain limits, and parents must be aware that the child should learn from adults and not live like them, otherwise there will be an imbalance in his psychological development because he did not live Each stage as required..Of course, this may seem difficult for many parents, but everyone should remember that childbearing is not a duty, but education is a duty and a major responsibility,Those who plan to have children must understand the moral responsibility that this entails, in addition to the emotional, psychological, social, educational and material responsibility towards the child..
And part of taking responsibility is realizing that the child looks at his parents, whether the child is a male or a female, as a role model, so he may imitate their behavior and try to wear their clothes and use their things,he repeats their phrases and thoughts, even the bad ones. This is an innate behavior, but many men and women today suffer from deep psychological problems because they grew up in an emotionally turbulent atmosphere dominated by monotony and violence, and also because many of them saw that one or both parents perform painful actions for him, the child understands the meaning of That the father hits his mother or treats her violently, and understands the meaning of one of the spouses cheating on his partner, and understands the meaning of one of them also performing unfamiliar behaviors or contrary to morals and the law such as theft or sexual harassment,the child cannot justify or accept any father or mother to leave him in his childhood for any reason, and the matter gets worse when some parents leave to start a new emotional life, abandoning all his responsibilities,Including taking care of the child’s expenses and care, and even if there are institutions that embrace these children, but the laws are still not keeping pace with developments and change in societies and their psychological and social effects, which will later be reflected on society as a whole, and there must be a serious obligation for parents who violate their obligations towards their children because laws are enacted Early on, it will save society and human many consequences, one of which is the economic consequences, because many people waste their money on drugs or alcohol, or both, to get rid of his psychological pain, or pay large sums of money to buy antidepressants and psychiatric drugs, or turn into a person who is ready to corruption and to expose society and the country to danger because he does not feel belonging to it and because he is taking revenge on it because he did not preserve his rights..
Therefore, the responsibility begins with individuals, they should be aware and know exactly what they want, there is no need to have children if they are not ready for it, and when making a decision from both parties, they should speak openly about their problems and fears without hesitation or shame and seek advice from a psychologist to help them,they should also be rehabilitated for this very important step, and everyone who has a psychological problem should be treated before giving birth to be a healthy personality capable of dealing with the child, especially with the pressures and burdens of daily life.. because the child who grows up and finds in his parents criminal or dishonorable behavior will turn into Someone similar to them and perhaps worse than them,
Or he may turn into an introverted person and suffer from fear, anxiety, stress and depression, making him an unstable personality that may harm himself and may commit suicide in some cases..
Therefore, every man and woman who thinks about having a baby should know that they are the role model, the shelter, and the most important icon in the lives of their children, not the artists and celebrities, and they have to change themselves so that they do not destroy their children, and this is what no one wants..And in case that pregnancy occurs without the desire of the two parties, I hope that there will be some love and mercy for them and that they will forget about any dispute, whatever the reason, because the child is not at fault..
This may sound ideal, but I am conveying to you the experiences of people I have met and heard about their sorrows, their wishes, their fears and their deep wounds. We hope, of course, that the lives of our children today will be better than ever, especially since we may not all have money, but we have at least some emotions that every child deserves..